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Good
morning !
John Walsh of America's Most
Wanted spoke to us at the AMCP (Academy of Managed Care
Pharmacists) meeting. His son, as you all know, was kidnapped
and killed. Many couples separate and divorce when faced with
such devastating loss. He and his wife held to each other,
supported one another, and continue to act as advocates for
others touched by crime. (America’s Most Wanted is responsible
for the capture of over 880 criminals)
On
the 19th my wife and I celebrate 30 years of marriage. Thirty
years, three homes, three children…. one wife. Pretty boring
stuff right? Wrong! The time flew by….I still think of myself as
twenty-something, with my new bride, first time living away from
home and the busy time it was (October of 1974 was the wedding,
start of my Pharm.D program , and pharmacy boards.) We had a
few meager meals early on but I felt truly blessed. Three years
later I almost lost my bride to a tubal pregnancy. (That
Christmas I showered her with gifts for not dying on me). We
eventually went on to have three fantastic children.
People have asked the “SECRET” to a long marriage. I
usually refer them to the real. lifetime marriages. I will pass
on some great advice I received years ago at a “men’s
conference”…… One speaker said he always had the same advice
whenever any man started a sentence with the complaining words
“…but my wife….” His advice? “Love your wife!”… when
pressed with “ You don’t understand she.. (complaint)...” He
always repeated “Love your wife!” (Many men were hoping
that their wives were getting the same type of advice, "love
your husband", from speakers at women’s conferences).
Children pick up the attitude about how men and women are to
relate from what they see. Loving each other is the best way to
insure that your children will be successful in marriage. It is
much easier to have a life time together if you come from a long
line of Golden marriages. As
tough as ANYTHING gets the answer is sticking it out together in
love. Whatever challenges and trials we had along the way have
long since faded. As we approach a time when the children will
all be away I can say I am still in love. I may have gained a
few pounds and lost my hair but the new bridegroom still lives.
My bride is still as beautiful to me as the day we were married.
So the advice I leave is "keep trying....love one another
and you can get through anything."
As quoted above, "success is never final".
Steve
ps. Best answer this week to
the question "How are you? "I
have never worked so hard to stay in the same place."
(Honesty counts for something)
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